Asking for Consent


There is an assumption that sex (or any sexual activity) “should just happen”, and that it “kills the mood” if you plan or talk about it.

Consent is mandatory and talking about needs, wants, and desires can be empowering and sexy. It can greatly enhance sexual activity and strengthen relationships

Asking for Consent

Asking questions like these is important. However, the most important part of consent is that you wait for, really listen to, and then respect the person’s answer!


"Can I kiss you?"


“What can I do to make you feel good?


“Would it be okay if I touched your _______?”


“What do you want me to do next?”


“I really want you to touch my______. Is that okay?”


“Do you want to keep going?”


“I really want to _____. Are you into that?”


"Would you like it if I _____?"

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